God’s Plan-Transparent Tuesday

I told myself on December 31, 2017 at my brothers wedding that I would be married by December 31, 2018. Because he met his wife in June and got married within six months. I felt like it was doable. Well, I haven’t been on ONE date ALL year. And if I’m honest with myself, I’m not ready for a relationship OR marriage. Besides, I block men ALL the time so, LMAO! No marriage for KB by December 31st. I thought that I would have been married by the age of 25 but now I’m 37. LMAO!

I told myself on January 24, 2018 that I would lose all of this extra weight that I had on me and I did. I was in the gym 5 days a week, ate clean, worked out with a personal trainer twice a week and I lost 22 lbs. But guess what, Chance’s angel date came around in April and I lost ALL motivation to workout. Popeye’s and Waffle House became my friends again and I gained back the 22 lbs PLUS 10. So, LMAO, again!

I told myself that I would have a house for Brandon and I by December 31, 2018. I wanted him to grow up in a home. My apartment is nice and spacious but I don’t own it. So, in November 2017, I started to work on my credit. I made some irresponsible decisions when I was in college. They were just GIVING credit cards away. Well, I took advantage of their offers and got five of them. What my 18-year-old self didn’t realize was that I had to actually PAY the bills every month. Needless to say, my credit has been screwed up for years. But I’ve always gotten what I wanted so I didn’t really trip about not having an 800 credit score. God still provided. But, I’m 37 now and there are things that I want for myself and my son. And I’m having the hardest time. As soon as I get my score where it needs to be for home approvals, something happens and my score drops. So, LMAO at getting the house by the end of the year.

But I had to realize that when you’re expecting something to good to happen, it’s going to cost you something. Hope costs you something. Expectation costs you something. It’s so hard to stand in readiness and you don’t get what you’re expecting. The Bible even says in Proverbs 13: 12 NLT that Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life”. When hope is delayed, it can make you sick. And I’m a living witness to that.

When you want something that keeps evading you, if you’re not careful, it will weigh you down. Literally. Anticipating something and it never happens costs you more than someone who wants nothing. That’s why there are so many people who settle for less because it’s easier to NOT expect or want anything. It’s so hard to want something and not get it. I know first hand.

Here’s a scenario: When your first start waiting for something, you’re excited and you’re all happy and optimistic. You walk around with make up on and you step out of the house dressed to the nines everyday. You just KNOW you’re meeting your husband that day. And then, your friend gets engaged. I mean, you’re truly happy for them but you were ready too. But, you’re still waiting. Next, someone you know finds a home and they close within a month. However, their credit score is worse than yours. BUT, you’re still waiting. You’re waiting but now, instead of leaving the house dressed up with make up, you pull your hair into a ponytail and slap on lip gloss and throw on clothes that match but you don’t look as good as you did when you first started your wait. You’re still waiting though. Then, the job you applied for and just knew was yours gets filled by someone less qualified than you. You’re looking around like, what happened, Jesus? I’ve been waiting for months for this job and you gave it to someone else first? Now, you don’t care about how you look. You get up, throw on a t-shirt and sweats. It doesn’t even match. You barely put lotion on your face when you leave the house and forget about make up. You’re tired of waiting and you’ve about just given up. BUT, you’re still “waiting” on the Lord. Waiting, waiting and MORE waiting. You say “I’ll get it after a while. He’ll show up one day”. I know I’m not the only one who’s tired.

You try to hold your head up but you’re tired. You try to be tough but you’re tired. You try to keep pushing and keep moving but you’re tired. You try to keep the faith and have hope but you’re tired. I don’t care how educated you are. Or how pretty or handsome you are. How committed you are. How loving and helping you are. How focused you are, YOU STILL GET TIRED! I’m not talking about the tiredness you feel when you go to bed at night but the kind of tired you feel when you wake up in the mornings. You go to work tired. Eat your lunch tired. Scroll Instagram and Facebook tired. Talking on the phone tired. Smiling and grinning tired. But nobody knows that you’re tired.

But I was listening to a sermon from TD Jakes and he said that the oil started to burn when you started hoping. It didn’t just start when you started doing. It started when you started to believe that something is about to happen in your life. In the midst of everything, we still have to keep going. You have to keep believing. You have to continue to get up. You have to burn the oil to keep on waiting. There is power in waiting. The Bible says in Isaiah 40:31

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength.
They will soar high on wings like eagles.
They will run and not grow weary.
They will walk and not faint.

You have to be tough to wait. You have to be tough to work all day and work on your dreams at night. You have to be tough to go home and cook dinner and do school work or business plans while the kids are sleeping. You have to be tough to continue to see others being blessed while you’re still anticipating and waiting. You have to be tough to be able to work a job that only pays you enough to pay your rent but you have to wonder how you’re going to pay your utilities. You have to be tough. I know I’m not the only one going through a tough time right now and waiting for that breakthrough to come. I know it’s coming.

The things that you want are coming. But how you react during this time is what matters. You can either be wise or foolish.

Psalm 27:14 says “14 Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.”

So, while you’re waiting remember,

Proverbs 23: 18 NLT  You will be rewarded for this; your hope will not be disappointed.

 While I was writing this and the tears were falling down my face because I’m super frustrated, I realized that my plans are not God’s plans and that His timing is perfect. And even though I don’t have everything I want, I still have everything I need. God’s plan is always on time. 

Just keep waiting.

God has spoken…

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies

Proverbs 31:10

I found one. And she is my grandmother. Outside of my mother, she is the most classiest, sassiest, funniest, loving, God fearing woman I’ve ever known.

My grandmother, Cora B. Jones.

Let me tell you, when I was a kid, my grandma would make my dresses and dolls. She took me on trips. My favorite one is when she took my cousins and I to Pittsburgh one summer. When I got into high school, me, my cousins, Bri and Arielle would meet up at her house and stay on weekends. Sitting on trash cans and taking over her house. She never complained.

She and my daddy would go fishing for hours and hours. I don’t know they could have been talking about but they did it up until she couldn’t anymore.

When I became an adult, I started to go through things that I didn’t want to talk to my parents about. So what did I do? I called my grandma. Nobody knows the amount of times I would stop by her house or call her and talk for hours at a time. That was hard to do because her phone rang ALL DAY! She gave me some of the best advice that I still carry with me til this day.

Follow your heart but take your mind with you”

My grandma would look nice EVERYDAY! There wasn’t a time that I can remember that she wasn’t dressed up. And on Sundays, there was NOBODY cleaner than Cora at church. From her hat to her dress to her stockings to her shoes! She was fresh! And she would be guest speakers at churches and she was always requested to mcee a program. She was the best one I’ve ever seen. Grandma would write down everything that was said in between songs or speeches and when she got back up to announce the next thing on the program, she would be able to bring everything that happened back together. The best. If you didn’t see her in person, you missed out.

Around 2012, my grandmother started to get sick. I remember after Chance left, that she came over to my parents house where I was and she was quieter than normal. I recall her walking around the house with the house phone in her pocket. But I was too grief stricken to really talk with her. We could have bonded more because she too lost a child. Unfortunately, we never had that opportunity.

She was diagnosed with dementia. And this is a sickness that I hate. My grandmother who read everyday. Completed countless 1000 pc puzzles. The one who did crossword puzzles because she was told that it would help her keep her memory. Unfortunately, she would forget. No matter how hard she tried to prevent it from happening.

It’s so hard seeing someone as vibrant as she was slowly deteriorate. Everyday, she would get a little worse. One of the most heartbreaking things to experience is to look at your grandmother and she doesn’t know who you are. Then she started to forget who her children were. I remember my daddy being upset because she couldn’t remember him. Next, she started to get smaller. My granny was nicely built but she became a shell of who she was. And that’s hard to witness. I can admit that I didn’t go see her as much as I could have but I didn’t like seeing her in that state. That wasn’t the Cora that I knew. But I would still go to the hospital when she would fall and hurt herself. I went to the rehabilitation center to visit her but it was hard. In my opinion, dementia strips you of all of your dignity. I commend my Aunt Ollie for taking care of her day in and day out. I can’t imagine how hard it was to witness it daily. I’m praying that now she can try to get as close to normal as possible. My grandmother lived with her and my aunt did the best she could with her. Thank you, Aunt Ollie.

Do you remember the story of Lot and his wife? Lots wife was the only one in the Bible to ever turn into a pillar of salt. I don’t know why she looked back but the moment she turned to look back, she was turned into a pillar of salt. And it’s funny that she turned into a pillar of salt because like salt, her presence was important. Like salt, her presence was holding the family together. Because a GOOD mama holds the family together. Like salt, she was the preservative. The only reason why most families made it through everything that we went through aside from God is that a GOOD woman preserved the family. A GOOD woman is like salt because she keeps everything from spoiling. She makes it work when it’s not working. She doesn’t murmur and complain. She just does what she has to do to make it work. A GOOD woman can make her children and grandchildren feel like superhero’s even when things aren’t going right for them. She makes them feel like they can still conquer the world. A GOOD woman makes you want to cuddle up under her because a GOOD woman is a shelter in your life. A GOOD woman is like salt because she seasons up the house. She makes it a better place. She turns a house into a home. She turns a crisis into an opportunity. She turns a tragedy into a moment for us to believe in God. A GOOD woman is like salt. The food could exist but it wouldn’t be the same if it wasn’t sprinkled in salt. She’s like salt because she’s a purifier and over the years she’ll take a wild child and purify him. She’s like salt. Everything is better when she’s in it. She cleans up messy situations and drives out bacteria. Telling the devil to get up out of her house! A GOOD mama will wake up and pray at 2 am while everybody is sleeping and cry and ask God to cover her family. You probably didn’t know that she was stressed because a GOOD mama never makes her kids worry. That’s a GOOD mama and a GOOD woman.

My grandmother is the salt. I’m not saying that she looked back but I’m showing you her importance in our lives. She could know the worst about us but still believe the very best about us. When all hell was breaking loose she prayed us out of situations.

On Saturday August 11, 2018 at 2:00 am, like a thief in the night, God called her home. I know in my heart that she was ready. I’m going to miss her sassiness. I’m going to miss popping up at her house. I’m going to miss calling her so she could make me feel better. I miss the butter rolls she would make me when I asked her to. I’m going to miss the annoying way her and my daddy would answer the phone when they called one another “whatcha saying with your mouth open? Blah blah blah.” That’s literally what they said to each other. But that’s my flesh speaking. She suffered for a long time and I know now that she is at peace and resting in that mansion that the Lord had prepared for her.

Cora B, you finished your race. You left a great legacy. I know God is pleased. And while you had to suffer here on earth your last few years, your reward in heaven is so great that I can picture how happy you are. Now, you’re with Pop, your parents, your siblings, your son Clarence Jr and granddaughter Sydney Chance. I’m sure they welcomed you with open arms and beautiful songs. Your crown is beautiful and that robe is going to be fresher than any suit you had on here. And while my daddy and his siblings will miss you, your grandchildren will make sure that things get better. We will meet you in heaven one day.

“I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.” ‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭4:7-8‬ ‭

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We love and will miss you.

Why you won’t see me judging anybody

On social media, you won’t see me posting about mass shootings. Mothers killing their children. Fathers killing their kids. People committing suicide. You know why? First of all, I don’t know what anybody’s mindset is. Second and lastly, I CANNOT JUDGE ANYBODY!!!! The bible says,

1 Peter 3: Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brother and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude.”

Now, lets be clear, I do not condone any of it. It broke my heart when I HEARD(I did not watch. You have to be careful about the things you allow into your mind. That image will forever be there) about the video of the elderly man in Cleveland that was killed today. Like, always, I wondered what he was thinking when that situation was unfolding. I’m praying that his relationship with God is on point. But at this point, Heaven is so much better than this cruel world.

What I want to say is, MENTAL ILLNESS is real!!! And like I always say, you cannot see it from the outside. You know how I know? I battle with this daily. Severe depression. Post traumatic stress disorder. Anxiety. All triggered from things that I go through daily. ONE traumatic situation caused a series of mental illnesses. Again, I struggle daily! I’m just blessed with an awesome support system. My family and friends LISTEN to me when I’m having rough spells. They don’t understand but they don’t blow me off. All it takes is a few moments to listen to someone when they’re expressing themselves. Just listen.

Do you know how many people suffer in silence because of shame and embarrassment? Do you think it’s easy to admit to someone that you have a mental illness? Do you know the stigmas attached? Do you know that it’s by the grace of God that you’re not suffering? It’s free to be there for someone. But do you know that a few minutes of being there for a friend or family can save people a lot of heartache. It can deter some tragic situations. Example, what happened in Cleveland today. I didn’t watch the video of the man being killed. But I did watch the video of Stevie Steve talking to a friend and one thing that stood out to me was him saying, “I snapped. And when I try to talk to ya’ll, you blow me off like I’m just talking..” No one listened. Now, 14 people are dead. Likely 15 when the police catch him or if he commits suicide. No one took his pain seriously.

That’s just like when Shanynthia Gardner murdered her children last July. The first thing people did was condemn her to hell. They wanted her to be stabbed to death like her children were. They wanted her gone. But when I heard that story, my heart immediately asked questions. Why didn’t anyone see the signs? Why wasn’t she being treated for mental issues? Was she overwhelmed? Why did she snap? I didn’t judge her because I’m not God. I wish more people would look around at their friends, family and coworkers to see if they’re really ok.

And why is it so hard for people to understand that black people suffer from mental illnesses? Why are we exempt? When tragic situations like these happen, people automatically say, “black people don’t do that!”. Well, we snap like any other race. Why do you have to pretend that you’re ok? It’s ok to not be ok! We are killing ourselves mentally because we don’t want people to look at us funny. But guess what? When you snap, they’re going to talk about you anyway. So get the help you need.

My friends, when you ask someone how they’re doing, don’t accept the “I’m fines” or  the “everything is goods”. They’re not. Take five minutes out of your day and genuinely listen. Be sincerely concerned. Don’t run back and tell their business. That’s why people suffer in silence. We’re afraid that you’re going to tell everybody you know that I told you that I’m having problems. Don’t revel in someone’s misery. Don’t be giddy to spread a private conversation. Encourage the people that you love to seek the help they need. Prayer is great. God is a healer and He is faithful. However, I feel that he wants you to utilize the resources that are available.

I know people are going to rip me apart for this blog because I’m writing this from a different perspective. But at this point, I’m just writing what I feel led to share. I’m unashamed to say that I suffer. I won’t suffer in silence anymore.

You won’t see me judging anyone for their actions. I may not agree with them, but I won’t speak about what someone else is going through. We are all one situation from something tragic happening. I will attach some scriptures. I hope that people read and study these with open minds and hearts.

Romans 14:13 “So let’s stop condemning each other. Decide to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall”

Luke 6: 27 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.

1 Timothy 5:24 “Remember the sins of some people are obvious, leading them to certain judgment. But there are others whose sins will not be revealed until later.

Love each other. Be compassionate towards each other. Pray for each other. Pray for peace of your mind daily!!!!

Keisha

Who’s fighting for you?

Do you sometimes wonder how you’ve made it through certain situations in your life? Like, why your situation didn’t kill you or make you just completely give up on everything? 

That’s because you have someone in your life that’s fighting for you. Even when you don’t see it or feel it. God is still there. Always! Fighting those battles that you don’t even know you’re in. Battles that Satan are trying to take you out with. 

God loves us so much more than you’ll ever know. He’s waiting for you to put all of your faith in Him. He wants you to trust Him wholeheartedly. 

Isaiah 12:12 I trust You to save me Lord God and I won’t be afraid…

When you can’t figure out life and you’re stressed out beyond belief. Look at, 

Proverbs 3:5 trust in the Lord with all of your heart. Do not depend on your own understanding…

Stop trying to figure out everything on your own. 

Also, He blesses those who depend and trust Him during these trying times. It’s not in vain. 

Jeremiah 17:7 but blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence 

He protects you because you believe in Him. 

Psalm 91 the Lord says, l will rescue those who love Me. I will protect those who trust in My name..

Don’t worry about what people think about you. Don’t be concerned about who or what they want you to be. Trust that God knows what He’s doing in your life. He knows what’s best. Even when you don’t understand. 

Have faith in yourself and have confidence in your abilities. Follow your dreams. If you want to be a writer, don’t let anybody censor you. If you want to be a singer, sing your heart out and make sure you’re giving the glory to God. Sing for Him. If you want to start a business, start it. But don’t be discouraged if you don’t make millions of dollars your first few months. Perfect your craft and keep going. 

No matter what people think about you, know that God is fighting for you. He doesn’t want to lose you. 

Fight for your marriages. For fight your family. Fight for your friends. They can’t be replaced. Fight for your dreams. Just keep fighting. God has the rest. 

And also, so many are rooting for you. We have to support and generally love each other. Let’s fight for each other. Listen to this song by Mali music 💜

I know they see you and they want you
I know they see you and they want to

Make you who they want you to be

I know that life is tryna to get you

I know that life is calling out to you by your name

But don’t listen, resist it

Keep running, don’t you stop for nothing

Just keep kicking, remember where you came from

Don’t forget what you already know

What you got is amazing, hold that, don’t you let it go

You hold the light, you hold the light
You hold the light and it’s shining

And making darker places bright and you lighter

You hold the light, you got a lot

You bring a lot, you bring a lot

And it’s evident they can see it, they want in it

But it’s not for the taking, it’s not for the changing

No it’s not for remixing, it’s not for remaking alright.

So they lining up to take it alright

I can’t let them take my you, you know I write for you yeah

I won’t let them take you, I won’t let them
I won’t let them take you, I’ll be your protection

I’ll be your direction yeah, I’ll be your protector

You know I’ll rather fight for you, I’ll fight for you

I’ll fight for you, you knowing I’m fighting

Cause I refuse to lose you 

Fighting cause I refuse to lose you…

The butterfly…

I’m sitting here at work and I’m a little down today because it seems like the things that I really want in my life seem to pass me by and go on to others. I sometimes think, “Dang, don’t I deserve SOME of the things I pray and ask for?” And today while I’m ALL in my feelings I started reading on the internet and I came across this.

Quick little story…

A man found the cocoon of a butterfly. One day, a small opening appeared. The man sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force it’s body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and that it could go no further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small shriveled wings.The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly. What the man, in kindness did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it could and would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly.
When you ask God for strength, He gives you difficulties to make you strong. When you ask for wisdom, God will give you problems to solve. If you ask for prosperity, He will give you a brain and will to work. Ask for courage and He will give you dangers to overcome. You can ask for love and He will give you troubled people to help. Ask for favor and you will get opportunities you weren’t qualified for. You may not receive everything you want, how YOU wanted but you will get everything you NEED.
So basically (and this is what I’ve always known) everybody won’t run the race at that the same pace. Some may come in first. Some come in third. Some come in last. But at the end of the day, the goal is to cross the finish line.
A few weeks ago, I dropped Brandon off in Brinkley but on the way back  I said to myself, “I’m taking the back way home.” It was raining and I know that traffic can back up any time on Hwy 70. So as I was driving I can still see Hwy 55. Well, I drove at a good pace. Enjoying the scenery and I look over at Hwy 55. The traffic is slowing down. And I’m just cruising along listening to my music. Minding my business. Lol. Then I look over again and traffic is at a stand still. I’m thinking, what happened? They were just moving. I drive up and I see that there’s a car accident. But while their lane has stopped, mine is still moving. So I speed up and I pass the car accident but then I’M stuck! Other cars and trucks decided to take a shortcut and it stopped me! By now, I’ve passed the car accident on 55 but their lane is moving and I’m stuck. Then it hit me. We’re all going the same direction but our trips will not be the same. Those that know me KNOW that I got emotional. We were all going in the same direction. 
 With all of that being said. Trust your journey. You may see other’s getting married, getting promotions, having babies, buying houses and traveling while you’re wondering when you will be blessed with these things but GOD knows. You don’t know what they’ve gone through to get to that point. You will get there too. Your journey isn’t theirs and theirs isn’t yours.
So I will TRY to be patient and know that God is getting me ready and when I’m blessed with the things I desire, I’ll be able to appreciate them.
 
Remember your journey is YOURS! What I’ve been through could have killed you. What you’ve been through, could have harmed me. Learn the lessons so you can pass the tests.
You’ve got this!
Be blessed.

It’s not so bad..

I’m out with my brother, Brandon and my Mom looking at the moon tonight(it’s beautiful right now) and it made me realize that I take things for granted. So I decided to do a quick reality check.

Remember that when you’re going through the storm that things can always be a little worse than what they are. While you’re complaining about the your job, there’s someone that would love to have a paycheck coming to them. You hate your house? Well there’s someone who’s sleeping with their children in a shelter or on the street. You can’t buy your kids the latest and greatest? A mother is dreading Christmas because her child died and the holidays are a reminder of what she’s not able to do with her daughter. Your relationships are failing? A man is depressed because his life isn’t going the way he thought it should(men cry too) and there’s no one there to listen. Your car sucks? Someone is walking everywhere they need to go in the cold rain. You complain about your significant other but there’s a man or woman out here that has never experienced love and they’d love to have a relationship. So who’s losing? In Walter Hawkins song, Thank you, the singer says,

it could have been me, outdoors. With no food, no clothes. Just alone. Without a friend. Or just another number with a tragic end. But You didn’t see fit to let none of these things because everyday by Your power, You keep blessing me!

Wow!

Our mindsets are our biggest problems. I’m guilty of this. I tend to sometimes see the bad in life and overlook the good. I cry because Chance isn’t here. But honestly, I could be mourning the loss of both of my kids. Brandon was in the room with her when the accident happened. But God! Brandon is still here. He’s thriving and doing well. Thank God! Chance could have been a teenager and I could be worried about her soul and where she is. But she’s in heaven. And she’s still saving lives. Do you know how many children have died and are forgotten? How many children have PSA’s? Do you know how bad off I could be mentally? I have my bad times true enough but I’m in my right mind. There are so many grieving mothers that can’t function from day to day! I haven’t been admitted to a mental hospital. The depression isn’t constant. God made me strong and I’m able to encourage others even when I can’t see it. I’m so thankful for that. I complain about how things could be better in my life but I don’t take my God given talents seriously. I say I’m lonely but I don’t take the time to truly get to know people who genuinely want to know me. God shows me daily that I’m worth so much more than I’ve taken from people. My heart is precious and I’ll get the desires of it when I’m done learning these lessons. (I hope I’m close, lol! I want my husband. Geeez 😂) I’m so blessed and even though I don’t thank God enough, He still.. God still..

So, be thankful for your life. Be thankful for what you have. Give thanks for the people that God put in your life. Love your family and treat your friends nicely. Be grateful to God for protecting you from what you THOUGHT you wanted. Praise Him in advance for what He’s going to do. Live with Thanksgiving everyday. Let’s keep our minds on the positive. Satan tries to distract you with the negative. Don’t give in. Don’t give up. Keep your faith and you’ll see those blessings coming before they even get to you!

Life is not so bad as it may seem if you open up your eyes to what’s in front of you…

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

K. Bowles 💙

Note to self..

My last few months have been so crazy. Like, crazy crazy. The past two months going on three, heart numbing. Since Wednesday, off the chain. Today… Wow!!

Be careful who you put your trust in. Not everyone has your best interest at heart. Some people will use you until you feel that you have nothing left to give anyone else. Those people are selfish. They don’t deserve your love. And people that are selfish will be humbled. Facts only!

Be mindful of words. They mean nothing without action. A person can tell you 1000 times that they’ll change. Or that they will fix their wrongs. That they’re committed to making things better. It sounds good but let their actions speak for them. Don’t fall for the charm. You’ll be hurt everytime.

Be cautious of who you entertain. The devil comes to kill, steal and destroy. He knows exactly what you like. And if you’re trying to live in your purpose, he’ll use what you like to distract you. Every time. Self explanatory.

Pray about everything. God oftentimes gives you directions. We tend to want to go our own way. Follow the path He has laid out for you. When you try to do things your own way, you’ll keep going in circles until you get tired. Facts only! Until you learn the lesson He’s trying to teach, you’ll keep failing the same class.

Forgive those who hurt you. God forgives us on a daily basis. And when you truly forgive, you’re only helping yourself. The person who has wronged you is going on with their lives while you’re bitter. Don’t be bitter. Forgive and keep it moving.

Lastly, forgive yourself. A lot of times, we’re harder on ourselves. Don’t be. You’ll make mistakes with picking careers, relationships, friends, decisions. Learn the lessons and move forward.

God will sometimes make you uncomfortable when He’s trying to bless you.

Remember what you deserve and don’t let bad experiences keep you down. You’re better than what’s happened to you.